Saturday, June 27, 2009

And he’s OK

Better than OK actually.  Owen has already eaten 4 eggs (carefully chopped and cooled), 2 bowls of cereal (Rice Krispies soaked in milk), ice cream, rice stew and a banana.   He just won’t do the clear liquid diet so the docs said as long as the food is soft and he’s eating something – we’re OK.  Actually, why don’t I back up?

It’s been a very long two days so forgive me if I go astray…But when I woke up this morning could of sworn it was judgment day.  Whoa!  See what I mean?  I’m slightly delirious from lack of sleep.  In fact….You know what.  I’ve got to go to bed.  I’m suspending this mid – post and getting some well needed rest.  I’ll post tomorrow on his surgery.  You’ll thank me.  I’ll be much more coherent.

For those who have sent their well wishes THANK YOU!!! Owen did great and is recovering very well from his tonsil, adenoid and ear tube surgery!  I will at least give you pictures for now!


We took Owen to the Splash Pad to get a final run in before surgery and a summer full of earplugs.




He was as happy as a little clam going into surgery.  Below are some of my favorite pictures.  Click into the album for more!

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Uh…Owen?  Where do you think you are going?


Somebody catch that kid!




No explanation needed.

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Owen was ecstatic to get out of the hospital!  And when I came home from picking up his prescriptions with 6 rented videos from the library, I’ll really got the feeling that he was thinking the whole thing was worth it if for nothing else but those videos.



Thursday, June 25, 2009

Stress, stress and more stress

F*^k optimism.

Just kidding. I thought that would grab your attention though. Aaarrrrggg….

I’m not gonna lie, it’s a very, very stressful time around here. Beyond the miscarriage which has caused me to be poked and prodded like cattle – there are 3 other major things causing our stress.

#3 – I’ve been extremely busy. It’s just been one of those crazy months that I haven’t been able to sit down, relax and take a breather. I haven’t had a no-kid day off in I don’t know how long.

#2 – Owen is having his tonsils and adenoids out and ear tubes put in on Friday. Set aside the enormous anxiety I feel about the surgery, if you knew what it took to actually get him in, you would understand the stress. We started out with a referred ENT in Flint because we didn’t want to have to drive to Ann Arbor for yet another doctor. He scheduled us for tubes right away but didn’t look at his tonsils while we were there. Well, this oversight escaped me until he had an appointment with one of his (yes I said one of his) neurologists to discuss his mild obstructive sleep apnea. The neurologist suggested we cancel the tubes and have the tonsils, adenoids and tubes all done at once. Good idea. We decided that if we were going to do the T&A, we may as well stick with U of M.

Flash forward to 2 weeks later and we still don’t have a phone call from the otolaryngology department (yes, I Googled how to spell that). After several phone calls and several days, still no one calls me back from U of M despite my notes that it’s urgent and a note from the neurologist ordering an ASAP consultation. They finally get me a consultation date of July 16th. Uuuuhhhh, yeah, not going to cut it. I’m furious about lack of urgency for at least the tubes. Everyday week that goes by, Owen is further delayed and at further risk for permanent hearing damage. I finally had to call the neuro’s office back and have the doc send a personal email . Even then they didn’t get back to us until we had decided to go back to our original ENT. It’s the first problem I’ve had with U of M before (aside from billing naturally), but I hope it will be the last.

#1 – Due to some changes, we will be switching benefits. Unfortunately, these benefits are going to have a major effect to our medical care. We were previously enrolled in BCBS which worked very well for us. With the new insurance co, our out of pocket expenses double and most of our doctors are not in network. If we go to a doc out of network, it will cost us 40% of the billed expenses in most cases. Of our family’s 7 doctors, 4 are not in network including Dr. Pauli, the family doc I’ve been seeing for 25 years, Owen’s neurosurgeon and Dr. Tykocki the wonder OBGYN. Beyond that U of M hospital is not in network nor is the hospital that Dr. Tykocki is affiliated with meaning, even if I could work something out with his office, he couldn’t do my prenatal care because I would have to pay 40% of my hospital stay when I had the baby.

I am literally sick to my stomach over it. I haven’t slept well in 2 days because we are not quite sure what we are going to do. Private health care doesn’t look like an option because of the expense especially with Owen. I don’t even know if anyone would cover him with a preexisting condition and if they did it would be at a huge cost.

On top of it all, we have $1000 that we’ve paid into a flexible spending account that if we don’t use by July 1st, we lose. I don't think that stools and light extenders will be covered but are their any suggestions for equipment/needs that a FSA will cover that Owen could use? Anyone have any suggestions or product recommendations?

Also, please tell me your T&A surgery stories. I’m completely freaked out. My main worry is that something will go wrong with the anesthesia or which the surgery and we will lose him. Ahh….ease my mind please!

Uuuuggggg….I rarely wallow and I really don’t want to after the last post, but I’m just really stressed out.

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Optimism: The Right Stuff

The title of this post pays homage to a speech I wrote as a sophomore in high school for an Optimist Club Oratorical Contest.  I actually ended up winning the entire state competition and a college scholarship with that speech.  I’m a natural optimist as is my husband and it’s times like these that we really have to dig in and find the bright spots in tough situations.

Dan and I have very unfortunately lost the baby.  Last Monday I began to bleed and went to the ER on the advice of my doctor.  Although an ultrasound revealed a gestational sac with a yolk, no heartbeat was detected.  I’ve spent most of last week in the Quest Medical Lab getting blood drawn to detect my hormone levels, which have steadily been decreasing.    All my pregnancy symptoms disappeared as well.

I have another ultrasound tomorrow and more blood work to determine weather or not I will need a D and C.  My doc doesn’t seem to think that I will.  Good news.

Dan and I are dealing with it.  The first few days I pretty much just wanted to curl up in a ball and not speak to anyone.  I was devastated.  We were really ready for this baby and excited to give own a sibling.  Furthermore, we are nervous about the implications of this being  our 2nd miscarriage. 

Luckily, my OBGYN seems to be most wonderful doctor EVER and wants to get the bottom of whatever may be going on.  When I saw him last week – remember this is the first time I’ve ever met him – he said, “So it looks like we might be losing this baby huh?” I said yes and he said “That’s bullshit.”  I thought to myself, ‘You know what?  He’s right!  This IS bullshit!”.  I will write more about Dr. Tykocki in another post.  He deserves a full post. 

I don’t want anyone to feel bad for us.  We’re good.  It is a sad situation, but we are optimistic people lucky enough to have an unbelievable network of family and friends.  People have gone through tougher times than us.  Besides, this gives Dan an excuse to “practice” making more babies.  Whatever happens, we are blessed enough to have Owen.  He makes everything better.  He is our right stuff.

Thank you in advance for all of your support and well wishes.  If there is one thing I have learned from blogging, it is that the support system is astonishing.   I know that you are all there for us and it means so much.  

Sunday, May 31, 2009

The Big Boy Bed

  We have had our share of sleep problems with Owen over the past few months.  When Owen wasn’t feeling well a while back, we let him sleep with us.  I know, I know.   I can hear you all groaning and judging me!  I now realize that I made a total rookie parenting mistake.  One that I have been paying for by the way.  As you have probably guessed….Owen has been sleeping with us for about 2 months straight now.

There was a lot of laziness on Dan and I’s part.  At first we were able to get him to bed in his crib, then he would wake up in the middle of the night crying.  It was so much easier to just bring him in to bed with us (clearly what Owen wanted) than to stay up and struggle to get him back to sleep.   On top of that, we liked being able to cuddle him at night, something he doesn’t really allow us to do during waking hours (he does have a reputation to uphold). 

Over the course of his mommy and daddy bed vacation, he started becoming not so fun to sleep with.  He kicks!  Dan and I would wake up in our king  sized bed each on the far edges with Owen sprawled out in the middle.  The last straw was when a rogue toenail left Dan’s back a mess.  I haven’t seen Dan’s back that scratched up since…well…um…I suppose that’s not appropriate….Moving on!

Anyways, we figured a big boy bed may help our plight although we had managed to get Owen into his crib for 3 nights previously. We decided on a toddler bed vs. moving right to a twin just for the transition factor.  Plus the smaller bed means Owen can get in and out all by himself without a stool.  The bed was only $60 at Wal-Mart and uses his crib mattress so we can still keep all his sheets and bedding for now.  One drawback – we just realized that it carries a max weight of 50 lbs. Ooops! I laid in it with him last night to help him get to sleep.  You’d think they’d account for that huh?

Owen’s first night was last night and HE FELL OUT!  I felt so bad!  We didn’t even think to put pillows on the ground because we thought the rails would stop him!.  It’s worth mentioning that I have hardwood floors.  Poor kid! Now come to think of it, I guess he’s used to sleeping on a huge bed with 5 and half foot human guard rails so maybe it’s not that big of a surprise.

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Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Shout out to Katie (Yes that's you Katie Johnson!)

I'm adding Katie's "Polka Dot Pig" button to my site. She does amazing handmade crafts and I want to be one of the ones to say she knew her before she went all Martha Stewart on us (uhhhh...not the insider trading and jail stuff...just the famous crafty home goddess stuff...I hope).

Ahem, anyways...Visit her site The Polka Dot Pig.

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Big News!

I am pregnant!   Or if you prefer….knocked  up, with child, bun in the oven, in a family way, embarazado, or in the pudding club (that’s for my British friends, Sharon, Clare and Andy).

Fittingly, I found out on Mother’s Day that I was going to be have another baby.  Dan was happy, because I couldn’t accuse him of not getting me anything. 

Let’s see – details.  How did it happen?  Well, you see, when a man and a woman love each other very much….oh, I suppose you know that part already.  Seriously, not to be gross, but after Dan and I…uh..ahem….you know….I just knew that I was pregnant. It sounds unbelievable but it’s true.  I even said to him “Honey, I think you just knocked me up!” 

According to the Baby Center’s Due Date Calculator I am due on Jan 19th, however, I know the exact date of conception so the Amazing Pregnancy Due Date Calculator says January 14th.  Either way, I’m going with about 5 or 6 weeks along right now.   I obviously am not abiding by the “wait to tell everyone until the 1st trimester rule”.   I don’t think I could hide it for 12 weeks anyway.  I am showing already!  I heard that you get bigger faster for the 2nd one but geeze!  I already had to tell people solely for vanity’s sake.  I didn’t want them to think I was getting fat!

I didn’t blog about this, but I was pregnant in November also and lost it.  I wasn’t very far along,  only about 3 or 4 weeks.  I believe what happened was I had a chemical pregnancy.  The reason I didn’t blog about it is because it happened on the day of my sister Anne’s wedding and I didn’t want to take away from her.  (I wasn’t going to tell anyone I was pregnant until after the wedding).  By the time it was appropriate, the moment to talk about it had passed and it would have been awkward to bring it up.   It was sad but we handled it. 

So suffice to say, I’ve been a little worried that the same thing would happen this time, but I think I’m out of the clear (at least for the chemical pregnancy scenario). 

As far as symptoms go, I’m actually pretty good.  I’m very tired sometimes, and my boobs feel like 10 lb bowling balls (TMI??), but other than that, nothing.  I didn’t get sick with Owen and my general symptoms were pretty mild, so I hope to get the same thing with this new little bugger.

I have absolutely no preference as to girl or boy.  As long as my docs don’t misdiagnose him/her with lethal skeletal dysplasia, I’m good.  On that note, I will be going to a new OB/GYN who comes highly recommended and I will see him on June 4th.

I of course will keep everyone updated along the way.  Here are pictures of when I was preggo with Owen.





Monday, May 18, 2009

Totally Tube-ular

Yup!  You guessed it!  Owen is about to embark on a journey that seems to be every young achondroplasics rite of passage….he needs tubes!

Owen had his first ear infection at the end of January.  We had his ears tested by my sister-in-law Linda who is an audiologist (her practice is Advanced Audiology in DeWitt, MI) and there seemed to be a lot of fluid in his ears.  His tympanogram report was flat in one ear and almost flat in another.  A look around showed quite a bit of fluid and even some blood. His pediatrician put him on Claritin for a month to see if that would dry up the fluid and we got a referral to an ENT.

While on the Claritin, he seemed to be doing better.  He was imitating whatever we said, which he previously wouldn’t really do.  He was talking much more and was saying new words everyday.  However, today the latest typanogram test show no improvement!

We don’t have a date scheduled yet but we’ll see.  My nephew Drew had tubes and apparently the procedure is relatively easy. I know this is the right thing though.  Hell, at this point, I think he’s one of the only kids, short statured or average, who doesn’t have tubes. 

Here’s how random my subconscious is.  When the doc told me Owen needed tubes, the song “She’s a Beauty” popped into my head and I had no idea why.  Turns out it’s a song by…The Tubes!  Hahaha!  How in the hell did I file that away in my mental Rolodex when I was 5?!  Don’t think  I’d leave you hanging on this either.   Here’s the video.  The Tubes “She’s a Beauty” 


Owen and  his best buddy George

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Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Here’s Mud in Your Eye!

First off, thank you Katie for removing me from my Blogger misery. Windows Live Writer rocks! 

I’m still not finding the picture uploading as easy so maybe someone can give me some tips.  I want to upload like Facebook where you can click on the pictures and they all upload at one time.  I don’t see that you can do that here unless I’m missing it?  Still have to upload one at a time?

Anyway…here’s what I found when I came home from work yesterday.IMG_3545

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Saturday, April 25, 2009

Three posts, one day

Seeing as I went post crazy today here's an easier way.
The Cutest Kid in the Region
Easter Video
My Little Easter Bunny

The Cutest Kid in the Region!

This is of course aside from Kaela,Knoah,Ellie,Emma and Andrea of course! Oh, well, then there's the non blogging kids of course... Emily & Matthew. AND let's not forget the Average Height siblings.....Hannah, Jacob, Will, Rayme....Oh SHOOT! Let's just call it even! They are all stinking cute! Anyways, cuteness isn't the point! The point is what a blast we had in GR last weekend!

We attended our first regional LPA conference in Grand Rapids last Friday. It was different than we expected. We thought it to be a little more like National as far as organized LPA activites. You know, meetings, groups, seminars. There was more free time and it seemed more social in nature.

That was just fine by Dan and I! In fact, it was a very welcome surprise. We were able to relax and enjoy the company of our fellow LPA members. I was also able to figure out who was who within our chaper and region. As the Chapter Newsletter editor, I see a lot of names on paper and I was finally able to put faces to names. Nice!

Owen was extrordinarily good with the exception of a couple kids room meltdowns. For some reason he was just not interested in being left in the kids room while we attended the Parent's Meeting or the banquet. He's been pretty clingy lately. Even at daycare, which he's been attending since he was 3 months old and LOVES, he's been crying when we've been dropping him off.

My aunt and grandma live 10 minutes from the hotel the conference was held in so we stayed with them, not so much to avoid paying for a hotel room but just to visit with them. It was really nice to get to spend the weekend with them! Plus the homecooked meals were a great perk. I'm 30 years old. Will I ever grow out of sponging off my family?

Ok, so listen to this story...
I was walking by one of the banquet rooms and it was decked out with prom decorations. There were signs up that said "Kevhead High Prom 2009" and "Go Beavers!" I was kinda excited to see the kids dressed in their prom gear. Well, I walked by about an hour later and saw a Durex banner hanging over a table full of condums and lube. I was horrified! I'm thinking "OK, I went to Catholic school. It this what they are doing in the public schools now?" I mean I can appreciate trying to prevent teens from getting pregnant on prom night, but really?! Advertising condoms with a big banner and lube? Inappropriate!

Well, later on, I start noticing all these adults dressed in leisure suites and bad 80's dresses. It turns out that it was a radio station event with a prom theme! Duh! Go beavers? How'd I miss that? I sure felt a lot better. Anyway, after our Karoke party, our party crashed the prom and everyone had a great time!

Here's some pictures from the weekend

Isn't this kinda trippy? Owen was a karaoke master 7 year old Emma took this picture of my handsome husband Dan was a hit with the ladies! (Emily, Ellie and Emma)
Owen danced the night away. This is his happy fun face. Emma took this picture too. And this one....
And this one. I think we have a budding photographer in our midst.
Owen and his daddy
My favorite species of butterfly. Do you know what lies in the shadow of the statue? Tuckered out after a weekend of fun!

Easter Video

I obviously am trying out some new Video Editing Software. Guess I couldn't really hide that huh?

My little Easter Bunny

Whew! Ok! Got a lotta catching up to do!
Let's start with Easter

Owen and his dad
Trying out Owen's Easter present from 'Ama and Papa. A remote control car!
My mother's delicious Easter ham
My delicious Caesar Salad from a bag
Carrots and Onions with fennel

Ready for a nap after the big meal OK! Ready for the leftovers!

I know, I know...Right now you're thinking "What the hell? You haven't blogged in a month and you post pictures of your easter ham and bag o' salad? What's wrong with you?"
As we speak, I'm working on a post about regional! Stay tuned....